Expanding on the Everyday

There is a difference between the pain you cause yourself and the pain controlled by others. You can find joy easily in the latter, as you cannot control what others do; then, you still have your self-respect, your self-love. When you cause the destruction yourself, the only thing you’re left with is the knowledge you have to be different. That you are at fault. You cannot fall back on being proud of yourself or anything easy like that. You have to change.